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An Amazing Story of Forgiveness

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It has been determined over the years that the key to freedom is letting go and there is no better way to let go than to forgive. There is no better example of this axiom than is present in the story of Teal Scott. Teal Scott is, a woman who wasn’t supposed to be. Yet she is here to show others the way. She is here to show others the way out of powerlessness and the way out of pain. She made that journey herself, it was a journey where revenge and anger were road signs but not answers. Now, after years of torture inflicted upon her by a mad man and the cults he belonged to, she has no desire to see her abusers prosecuted or to have the iron hammer of justice brought down upon their heads. To her, they are just victims of loveless situations, broken families, and a cycle of separation that exists far beyond the bounds of this story you are reading now. That day, when I saw her for the first time as she rounded the corner, I was instantly struck by the fact that this woman was beautiful enough to be a super model. She moved gracefully with a looming, ethereal heir of confidence across the room. She exchanged a smile and an unusually firm handshake with me and then proceeded with unwavering eye contact to wait for me to start asking questions.

Teal was born in 1984 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. In the first years of her life, it became immediately apparent that Teal had been born with unusual talents that set her apart from other children. These talents were not ones that Teal’s parents understood. But in the years to come, they would discover that Teal was demonstrating abilities such as clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, the ability to manipulate electromagnetic fields and the ability to communicate with thought forms. As she grew, unlike many children born with extrasensory talents, her gifts did not go away.

When Teal was still a toddler, her parents (who were both wilderness forest rangers), accepted a job in the Wasatch-Cache National Forest of Utah, not knowing at the time about the intensely religious climate of the location. It was a sparsely populated area that at the time was over 95% Mormon. Because of this, word of her unusual abilities got out very quickly and were not only frowned upon but also feared by many in the community. Like many children growing up as a religious minority Teal was ostracized as a child and the extent of difficulty in her life might have stopped at that, except that it was because of Teal’s misunderstood, extrasensory talents that she caught the undivided attention of a loose acquaintance of the family. This man, whom for anonymity sake Teal calls “Mr. X” was a sociopath who also had dissociative identity disorder. Mr. X had many personalities, one of which belonged to a local Christian cult and one of which attended satanic rituals.

Mr. X managed to infiltrate Teal’s family and position himself between Teal and her parents as her mentor. He managed to convince Teal that among other things, he was in fact her real father. He became her mentor to such a degree that her family trusted him with her on weekend trips, with after school activities and to mentor her in horsemanship. He was who they turned to about what to do about her abilities, and later… in her teen years, they trusted him to take her in when she got so mentally unstable (due to the abuse) that the family didn’t know what to do with her anymore. All the time they were unaware that he was creating the very condition he claimed to be helping. He was taking her out of her bed at night until he eventually trained her to come of her own accord and also managed on many occasions to take her out of school. It was because of this man that Teal was inducted as a child (unbeknownst to her parents) into these local cults by Mr. X. For thirteen years, Teal was routinely ritualistically tortured and programmed by this man and the members of the cults he belonged to.

Over the course of those thirteen years, she was tortured physically and sexually in religious rituals, forced to participate in sacrifices, repeatedly raped and starved. She was forced to undergo 3 abortions (all fathered by Mr. X himself who was in his sixties at the time) he performed them himself because his job allowed not only the meager instruments to do so, but also the know how. She was photographed for sadomasochistic pornography, sold for money to men for sex out of motels and outdoor gas station bathrooms, kept hogtied in basements and kept in a hole in the ground in Mr. X’s back yard. She was exposed repeatedly to electro-shock programming, forced to undergo isolation torture and left overnight tied up in lava caves in southern Idaho. Teal was also forced to participate in bestiality and necrophilia and was drugged by Mr. X with Ketamine, Dormator, Xylazine, opiates and speed (all of which he had unlimited access to due to his career). She was repeatedly chased through wilderness by Mr. X “playing” tracking games in which he would hunt her and put her through any of a list of horrific punishments if she was caught and she was also used as a lure to other children that ended up also being hurt.

Teal was able to escape from Mr. X as well as the cults he belonged to when she was 19 years old. But the real heart of this story is found in the fact that Teal has become healthy and found joy to such an extent that she has completely forgiven her abusers.

Since her escape, she has assumed the title of “The Spiritual Catalyst” and has embarked on a mission as a contemporary spiritual guide in order to remind people of the united, energetic nature of this universe and to teach people how to find bliss in the midst of even the most extreme circumstances.

During my interview with Teal, we spoke briefly about the fact that happiness seems to be a very elusive quality and that those who do achieve it are seen as either unintelligent or conversely enlightened. I asked her if she feels like she has reached a place where she has achieved unshakable happiness and therefore a state of enlightenment. She gave a slight smile to this and bowed her head and said “No. One thing that makes it so people can not find happiness is that they think it is some permanent state you have to achieve or some place you have to get to when the truth is that happiness, like enlightenment either is or isn’t in the moment. It is a constant process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions into happiness, just like it is a process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions to be in line with enlightenment. I have my days where I am not very good at this, and my days that I am.” In her lengthy way of speaking she continued to say “No one is meant to come here to this life and stand in perfection, or live up to something that stands in judgment of us. We are meant to come here to life in order to find happiness. Evolution is an inevitable byproduct of following the path to happiness. Not one person here, as much as you may expect it from them, stands in perfection. Perfection is an illusion. To expect perfection from yourself or others is to be resistant to where you or where someone else is and as long as you are resisting what is, you can not move forward from what is.

For most people, the first reaction that comes upon hearing this story is one of total shock and then the sudden need for justice. The question of how we can reduce the ever increasing levels of crime and violence is one that plagues our society today. The usual answer to this question which is given by politicians and the media is that we have to be even tougher on crime. It is an answer that comes from a deeply held belief that fighting against crime even harder will eventually straighten this country out. But Teal adamantly disagrees. She has maintained the stance that no one needs be brought to justice after what was done to her.

Teal’s abuse did become a matter of the state however. Due to a confidentiality clause which was nullified by certain details of Teal’s abuse, her psychologist at the time presented her the option that she willingly tell the authorities what went on or she would have to contact them with or without Teal’s consent with the details of the abuse. So, in 2005 she told the local authorities the horrendous story of her past. It turned into an investigation, which went cold after quite some time when the district attorney decided the state could not provide enough substantial physical evidence to win a case. When I asked Teal about her views on this she said “Most women who escape from situations like I did do not ever tell about it. I did tell, but even the physical evidence I had was not enough given the years that had passed since the last incident that occurred. And I am glad for that in retrospect.” I, like most people would be, was shocked by this reply and asked her why she was glad that a man such as Mr. X could still be out in the public and not in jail. She proceeded slowly and said “There is a negative vehicle of want and there is a positive vehicle of want. It is our choice which vehicle to get in and drive our own lives from. You could say…I don’t want torture and abusers in this world… so we must punish all of those that torture, and torture the torturer so to speak. Contrastingly, instead of saying…I don’t want torture…one could say…I want compassion… and show those same actors of violence compassion that they perhaps have never been given before. Happy people who feel loved do not hurt other people.”

It is Teal’s belief that the de-humanizing environment of jails and prisons does not rehabilitate criminals, it create even worse criminals. She says it is impossible to punish someone into wellness, that punishment for crime is like fighting fire with fire, and so it is time for the justice system and the environment of jails to change. She believes that the way to eliminate abuse and criminal behavior is to change society at its root and change the way we treat those who commit acts of violence. Teal went on to say “We, as a society believe very strongly in victim-hood and so, we try to control others by creating laws. And we enforce those laws with harsh punishment for all those who disobey them. Laws are not control; they are merely the physical illusion of control. They do not work in the way that they are intended to work, and they run counter to the universal truth of freedom. They will fail and they do fail. Your crime rates will keep going up if crime is approached in the way it is approached today”.

As our meeting came to an end, I found myself awestruck at this woman who stands today in a light of forgiveness and mercy after having lived a life of torture and pain. She demonstrates an attitude which many who have fallen victim to abuse have been incapable of achieving. She comes from a past that gives her the credibility to be able to say that a person can achieve happiness, health and success no matter what they have done in their life and no matter what was done to them. This revolutionary space is where we find Teal Scott. And if you take her message to heart, this revolutionary space is where any of us can find ourselves.

An Amazing Story of Forgiveness

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It has been determined over the years that the key to freedom is letting go and there is no better way to let go than to forgive. There is no better example of this axiom than is present in the story of Teal Scott. Teal Scott is, a woman who wasn’t supposed to be. Yet she is here to show others the way. She is here to show others the way out of powerlessness and the way out of pain. She made that journey herself, it was a journey where revenge and anger were road signs but not answers. Now, after years of torture inflicted upon her by a mad man and the cults he belonged to, she has no desire to see her abusers prosecuted or to have the iron hammer of justice brought down upon their heads. To her, they are just victims of loveless situations, broken families, and a cycle of separation that exists far beyond the bounds of this story you are reading now. That day, when I saw her for the first time as she rounded the corner, I was instantly struck by the fact that this woman was beautiful enough to be a super model. She moved gracefully with a looming, ethereal heir of confidence across the room. She exchanged a smile and an unusually firm handshake with me and then proceeded with unwavering eye contact to wait for me to start asking questions.

Teal was born in 1984 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. In the first years of her life, it became immediately apparent that Teal had been born with unusual talents that set her apart from other children. These talents were not ones that Teal’s parents understood. But in the years to come, they would discover that Teal was demonstrating abilities such as clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, the ability to manipulate electromagnetic fields and the ability to communicate with thought forms. As she grew, unlike many children born with extrasensory talents, her gifts did not go away.

When Teal was still a toddler, her parents (who were both wilderness forest rangers), accepted a job in the Wasatch-Cache National Forest of Utah, not knowing at the time about the intensely religious climate of the location. It was a sparsely populated area that at the time was over 95% Mormon. Because of this, word of her unusual abilities got out very quickly and were not only frowned upon but also feared by many in the community. Like many children growing up as a religious minority Teal was ostracized as a child and the extent of difficulty in her life might have stopped at that, except that it was because of Teal’s misunderstood, extrasensory talents that she caught the undivided attention of a loose acquaintance of the family. This man, whom for anonymity sake Teal calls “Mr. X” was a sociopath who also had dissociative identity disorder. Mr. X had many personalities, one of which belonged to a local Christian cult and one of which attended satanic rituals.

Mr. X managed to infiltrate Teal’s family and position himself between Teal and her parents as her mentor. He managed to convince Teal that among other things, he was in fact her real father. He became her mentor to such a degree that her family trusted him with her on weekend trips, with after school activities and to mentor her in horsemanship. He was who they turned to about what to do about her abilities, and later… in her teen years, they trusted him to take her in when she got so mentally unstable (due to the abuse) that the family didn’t know what to do with her anymore. All the time they were unaware that he was creating the very condition he claimed to be helping. He was taking her out of her bed at night until he eventually trained her to come of her own accord and also managed on many occasions to take her out of school. It was because of this man that Teal was inducted as a child (unbeknownst to her parents) into these local cults by Mr. X. For thirteen years, Teal was routinely ritualistically tortured and programmed by this man and the members of the cults he belonged to.

Over the course of those thirteen years, she was tortured physically and sexually in religious rituals, forced to participate in sacrifices, repeatedly raped and starved. She was forced to undergo 3 abortions (all fathered by Mr. X himself who was in his sixties at the time) he performed them himself because his job allowed not only the meager instruments to do so, but also the know how. She was photographed for sadomasochistic pornography, sold for money to men for sex out of motels and outdoor gas station bathrooms, kept hogtied in basements and kept in a hole in the ground in Mr. X’s back yard. She was exposed repeatedly to electro-shock programming, forced to undergo isolation torture and left overnight tied up in lava caves in southern Idaho. Teal was also forced to participate in bestiality and necrophilia and was drugged by Mr. X with Ketamine, Dormator, Xylazine, opiates and speed (all of which he had unlimited access to due to his career). She was repeatedly chased through wilderness by Mr. X “playing” tracking games in which he would hunt her and put her through any of a list of horrific punishments if she was caught and she was also used as a lure to other children that ended up also being hurt.

Teal was able to escape from Mr. X as well as the cults he belonged to when she was 19 years old. But the real heart of this story is found in the fact that Teal has become healthy and found joy to such an extent that she has completely forgiven her abusers.

Since her escape, she has assumed the title of “The Spiritual Catalyst” and has embarked on a mission as a contemporary spiritual guide in order to remind people of the united, energetic nature of this universe and to teach people how to find bliss in the midst of even the most extreme circumstances.

During my interview with Teal, we spoke briefly about the fact that happiness seems to be a very elusive quality and that those who do achieve it are seen as either unintelligent or conversely enlightened. I asked her if she feels like she has reached a place where she has achieved unshakable happiness and therefore a state of enlightenment. She gave a slight smile to this and bowed her head and said “No. One thing that makes it so people can not find happiness is that they think it is some permanent state you have to achieve or some place you have to get to when the truth is that happiness, like enlightenment either is or isn’t in the moment. It is a constant process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions into happiness, just like it is a process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions to be in line with enlightenment. I have my days where I am not very good at this, and my days that I am.” In her lengthy way of speaking she continued to say “No one is meant to come here to this life and stand in perfection, or live up to something that stands in judgment of us. We are meant to come here to life in order to find happiness. Evolution is an inevitable byproduct of following the path to happiness. Not one person here, as much as you may expect it from them, stands in perfection. Perfection is an illusion. To expect perfection from yourself or others is to be resistant to where you or where someone else is and as long as you are resisting what is, you can not move forward from what is.

For most people, the first reaction that comes upon hearing this story is one of total shock and then the sudden need for justice. The question of how we can reduce the ever increasing levels of crime and violence is one that plagues our society today. The usual answer to this question which is given by politicians and the media is that we have to be even tougher on crime. It is an answer that comes from a deeply held belief that fighting against crime even harder will eventually straighten this country out. But Teal adamantly disagrees. She has maintained the stance that no one needs be brought to justice after what was done to her.

Teal’s abuse did become a matter of the state however. Due to a confidentiality clause which was nullified by certain details of Teal’s abuse, her psychologist at the time presented her the option that she willingly tell the authorities what went on or she would have to contact them with or without Teal’s consent with the details of the abuse. So, in 2005 she told the local authorities the horrendous story of her past. It turned into an investigation, which went cold after quite some time when the district attorney decided the state could not provide enough substantial physical evidence to win a case. When I asked Teal about her views on this she said “Most women who escape from situations like I did do not ever tell about it. I did tell, but even the physical evidence I had was not enough given the years that had passed since the last incident that occurred. And I am glad for that in retrospect.” I, like most people would be, was shocked by this reply and asked her why she was glad that a man such as Mr. X could still be out in the public and not in jail. She proceeded slowly and said “There is a negative vehicle of want and there is a positive vehicle of want. It is our choice which vehicle to get in and drive our own lives from. You could say…I don’t want torture and abusers in this world… so we must punish all of those that torture, and torture the torturer so to speak. Contrastingly, instead of saying…I don’t want torture…one could say…I want compassion… and show those same actors of violence compassion that they perhaps have never been given before. Happy people who feel loved do not hurt other people.”

It is Teal’s belief that the de-humanizing environment of jails and prisons does not rehabilitate criminals, it create even worse criminals. She says it is impossible to punish someone into wellness, that punishment for crime is like fighting fire with fire, and so it is time for the justice system and the environment of jails to change. She believes that the way to eliminate abuse and criminal behavior is to change society at its root and change the way we treat those who commit acts of violence. Teal went on to say “We, as a society believe very strongly in victim-hood and so, we try to control others by creating laws. And we enforce those laws with harsh punishment for all those who disobey them. Laws are not control; they are merely the physical illusion of control. They do not work in the way that they are intended to work, and they run counter to the universal truth of freedom. They will fail and they do fail. Your crime rates will keep going up if crime is approached in the way it is approached today”.

As our meeting came to an end, I found myself awestruck at this woman who stands today in a light of forgiveness and mercy after having lived a life of torture and pain. She demonstrates an attitude which many who have fallen victim to abuse have been incapable of achieving. She comes from a past that gives her the credibility to be able to say that a person can achieve happiness, health and success no matter what they have done in their life and no matter what was done to them. This revolutionary space is where we find Teal Scott. And if you take her message to heart, this revolutionary space is where any of us can find ourselves.

Top 10 Best, Popular and Famous Highly Paying Affiliate Programs

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Affiliation is an automated and robotized marketing program where an online website advertiser, merchant or entrepreneur engage webmasters (the person who keeps a specific website) to place their banners ads or buttons on their blog or websites. Webmasters will receive a referral fee or commission from sales when the customer has clicked the affiliate link to get to the merchant’s website to perform the desired action.

Generally, make a purchase or fill out a contact form, desired action varies from merchant to merchant and according to their offers or promotions. In other words, we can say that, it’s an online business center for thousands of affiliate programs on the web. Now a days, affiliate marketing has become a multi-billion dollar industry and it’s the best way to monetize your blog or website. All the affiliate networks system have their own tracking, reporting, and payment system.

Affiliate programs or associate programs is an agreement between an advertiser and a webmasters, if a company or organization has generated, produced or designed a product and they are promoting and trading it via your website then you can also generate extra income by inviting your website visitors to promote it in exchange for a commission.

Moreover, if you are monetizing your website or blog with the absolute affiliate program then it can make a lot of money with a slight effort. For this, you need a healthy, bountiful and rich content website with a handsome amount of targeted traffic.Advertisers finance in affiliate programs for initiation of consumer interest or inquiry into their products or services of a business, it is also called lead generation. Different advertisers provide different kinds of affiliate programs. All affiliate plans do not work in the same way or pay the same rates. If you join a search engine affiliate program you most likely will be placing text links or banners to their advertisers and you’ll work on a pay-per-click fee. Similarly, some of others allow you to set up a shopping or store page that offers products related to the content of your website.

Basically, in association of any affiliate merchant means you are paid a commission per sale on the advertiser’s website and pay-per-click affiliate programs reward the minimum amount, as affiliates are usually paid per thousand clicks (CPC).

There are lots of other affiliate marketing programs than the ones that have been mentioned below, but these are the ones that are extremely successful and has been short listed on the behalf of advertiser’s worth and valuation, Alexa traffic rank, user experience and off course visitor’s strength.

1- CJ Affiliate by Conversant (Commission Junction) – Since 1998

  1. Alexa Rank: 5,645
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $50, $100 (Direct Deposit, Check)
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: No

CJ Affiliate by Conversant is an extensive, largest and highly paying affiliate marketing network in North America, it operates globally. CJ Affiliate is one of the oldest advertising company that is why it is preferred affiliate network of more than 500 companies and major online stores on the internet. I will recommend it personally because it has unmatched hub of advertisers, beautiful and easy to understand user interface, unworried payment system and the customer support that we cannot find anywhere.

CJ Affiliate has a very large variety of products to promote and merchants (advertisers) frequently pay high amount of commission rates for CJ publishers when we compare to other marketing affiliate companies or even their personal in-house affiliate program.

CJ Affiliate Network is free to join and you can simply sign in to CJ Account Manager once your application is approved and apply to different affiliate programs. Some of the advertisers approve publishers immediately while others approve manually after reviewing your account/website. But you need to link a quality website with healthy and rich content to get approval for individual affiliate programs.

2- ShareASale – Since 2000

  1. Alexa Rank: 1,008
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $50
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: Yes

ShareASale is another popular and most accepted affiliate network with a large amount of product choices. It has collected an excellent ratings, with the company’s outstanding persona, safety, morality, customer service, and ease of commission payment receiving glowing reviews. In fact, it is the well-known affiliate marketing company with over 3,900 merchant programs and more than 40 different categories. There are lots of other affiliate programs on the internet that are very distinctive to ShareASale.

ShareASale also provides you an extra feature that you can add products to your “basket”. It means, you can keep all information about specific merchants or products that you’d like to apply for, review, or export later on.

If someone is unfitted or failed to find an appropriate advertiser on CJ then most apparently it will be here at ShareASale. Moreover, to get start joint affiliate program with ShareASale is not complicated. There are couple of important and easy steps to get started. Essentially, you have to verify that you own your website before you can join any of them, which involves placing a key code in your website’s header tag.

3- Rakuten Affiliate Network (LinkShare) – Since 1996

  1. Alexa Rank: 2,138
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $50
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit, PayPal
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: No

According to writers and online surveys, Rakuten Affiliate Network Company has been declared and listed in one of the largest affiliate network, with over 10 million affiliate partnerships. Rakuten Affiliate (LinkShare) took the number one spot in the 2012 Affiliate Networks because of platform stability, support quality and ability to spread all around the world with more than 4,000 affiliate programs which allows you to manage your own program using the company’s various service and support options.

Rakuten is not the quickest to sign-up or the simplest to navigate, but there’s a lot of helpful guidance as you go. You have to sign-up with each separate advertiser before you can boost their products. This reveals that quality is important here.

Rakuten Affiliate has a lot of physical products to promote, including some big-brands. They provide access to thousands of publishers recruited daily worldwide. Search by product category, traffic, consumer geography and other criteria significant and relevant to your online affiliate campaign. They provide patented tracking technology, easy tools to upload ad links, coupon links or product feeds and reliable online payment options.

4- AWIN.com (Affiliate Window) – Since 2000

  1. Alexa Rank: 17,848
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $20/£20
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit, Wire Transfer
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: Yes

AWIN.com, Affiliate Window is one of the best affiliate network in Europe and prominently increasing around the globe with over 2,100 advertiser and 75,000 publisher respectively. It provides instance access to nearly 77 sectors in 11 territories. This affiliate program is at the top because of its unique traffic light system which is providing visibility on payments, low threshold payments available in multiple currencies twice a month, simple user-friendly platform, interface with real-time reporting.

In 2013, UK buyers made 150M purchases via affiliate websites. Monetize your website and join the thousands of bloggers by adopting affiliate marketing as a way of monetizing your website in an intelligent and excellent way.

Affiliate Window is incredible to work with because this affiliate program understand that independent publishers have different demands and will work with the advertiser and publisher to ensure the program works for both. It has dedicated publisher services team with sector specialists, access to more than half of the UK’s biggest brands* (as listed by IMRG 2013 survey), live chat support and multiple range of tools to create links.

5- Click Bank – Since 1998

  1. Alexa Rank: 3,414
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $10
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit, Wire Transfer
  4. Sell Products: Globally
  5. Referral Program: Yes

Click bank a well-known affiliate network and has a huge statistics with 200 million customers, it features over 6 million digital products, such as e-books, software and membership sites. With their network of 500,000 digital marketing experts in over 190 countries, digital product will reach customers around the world. They help you to set commissions that maximize the network of digital marketers promoting your offers and together watch your sales grow. Click Bank has delivered lifestyle products to customers around the globe.

After joining Click Bank affiliate program, you can get up to 75% commission on all sales. Find particular informational lifestyle products with just one click, obtain advice on any topic, immediately access products and there is no need to wait.

ClickBank sells lifestyle products that are produced by fervent entrepreneurs. Their products give innovation and instruction on topics ranging from training the family dog and Paleo cooking recipes to workouts to become a better surfer. With each click and every sale, their products improve the lives of customers around the world. They stand behind the products and strive to deliver unparalleled customer satisfaction.

6- Zanox – Since 2000

  1. Alexa Rank: 9,099
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: €25
  3. Payment Method: Check, Direct Deposit, Wire Transfer
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: No

Perhaps the largest European network and a partner of Affiliate Window and eprofessional, zanox supports more than 4,300 international advertisers in the successful marketing of products and services on the internet. However, it is not very much familiar with USA but has a growing terrific reputation gradually. Globally, more than 700 people work for zanox and its partner companies. Moreover, zanox champions the establishment of international quality standards with its own Code of Conduct for all participants in the network.

Affiliate networks becomes important when they have an exclusive relationship with a brand. The most famous handmade marketplace Etsy.com’s affiliate program is powered by Zanox. So you will need a Zanox publisher account to become an affiliate of Etsy.

Simply, display ads on your website and earn money for generating sales and leads. You gain maximum reach via Zanox global publisher network with a wide variety of publisher models. You will be given maximum benefit from their global network of high-quality brands and attractive promotions and their statistics enable you to track and improve your performance. They also provide great importance to trust, network quality and transparency.

7- Affiliate.com – Since 2008

  1. Alexa Rank: 465,669
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $100
  3. Payment Method: Check, Wire, ACH, PayPal
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS
  5. Referral Program: Yes

Affiliate.com only works with top and high quality affiliates and provide some of the most sought after campaigns across various verticals, including campaigns for more than 100 different countries. They provide world class affiliate support, whether you are looking for a particular offer or are in need of a fresh new creative, their affiliate managers are your number one resource for helping you to generate the highest level of revenue. Lots of other affiliate networks suffer from disconnection, not so from this network.

Affiliate.com oblige anyone from beginner level to advanced affiliates. They have a very helpful staff that take each case on an individual basis. So, if you do not have much experience yet you should probably be best to try one of the other networks first.

Affiliate.com network declares more than 2,000 live campaigns in different categories, so there is definitely a large selection to choose from. To become a part of Affiliate.com you have to fill out an affiliate application form, your application will be reviewed within 2 business days. You’ll get a call to confirm all of your information and be assigned to an affiliate manager. They also offer domain parking and redirect monetization services.

8- Vig Link – Since 2009

  1. Alexa Rank: 9,959
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $10
  3. Payment Method: PayPal
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS, CPC
  5. Referral Program: Yes

It is very much similar to Skimlinks, complete the sign up process and then simply add one line of code to your website or blog and VigLink will automatically turns existing links on your pages into revenue generating links. VigLink can also insert new links on relevant terms and phrases to capture purchase purpose. You can also earn from purchase intent created in your app, the content created and shared over mobile apps drives purchase. VigLink’s Rest API opens up a new revenue stream for publishers by allowing them to earn from this created purchase intent.

VigLink manages a publisher network of over 2 million sites and apps, as well as an advertiser network of over 50,000 brands and merchants. It is also backed by top investors including Google Ventures, Emergence Capital, and RRE.

VigLink believes that it links out every feasibility so what seems to be a simple and normal link to you can be turned into a monetizing affiliated link with them. It takes a 25% cut of the affiliate commissions generated from your website or blog. You get 35% of what they earn for a year from your referral. Moreover, VigLink identifies commercial products mentioned within content and links them to destinations determined in real-time, advertiser-bid auctions.

9- Valuleads – Since 2009

  1. Alexa Rank: 996,763
  2. Minimum Payment Amount: $50
  3. Payment Method: PayPal, Pay Check, ACH (Direct)
  4. Programs Offered: CPA, CPL, CPS
  5. Referral Program: Yes

ValuLeads is an energetic and widely growing, achievement based advertising agency founded in 2009. Their basic goal as a team is to provide the best value possible to every organization they work with. ValuLeads understand that each client, whether advertiser or publisher, has different needs and wishes. Therefore, they work with their customers on a one-on-one basis to create a completely customized system or campaign designed to maximize value and results. ValuLeads is committed to getting the top payout for each and every campaign.

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10- JV Zoo – Since 2009

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It is free to become an affiliate at JVZoo. It provides one affiliate link and instant access for all products in a sales funnel. JVZoo having little resemblance to ClickBank. Because, it’s a network for affiliates and sellers based around digital products. It’s easy to manage, just like with ClickBank, you can check out the marketplace to get an idea of the products you could promote before you have even signed up. After joining, you can have access to the JVZoo Affiliate Product Library, which contains products from a wide variety of categories.

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An Amazing Story of Forgiveness

Pat Boone key fob from the fifties

It has been determined over the years that the key to freedom is letting go and there is no better way to let go than to forgive. There is no better example of this axiom than is present in the story of Teal Scott. Teal Scott is, a woman who wasn’t supposed to be. Yet she is here to show others the way. She is here to show others the way out of powerlessness and the way out of pain. She made that journey herself, it was a journey where revenge and anger were road signs but not answers. Now, after years of torture inflicted upon her by a mad man and the cults he belonged to, she has no desire to see her abusers prosecuted or to have the iron hammer of justice brought down upon their heads. To her, they are just victims of loveless situations, broken families, and a cycle of separation that exists far beyond the bounds of this story you are reading now. That day, when I saw her for the first time as she rounded the corner, I was instantly struck by the fact that this woman was beautiful enough to be a super model. She moved gracefully with a looming, ethereal heir of confidence across the room. She exchanged a smile and an unusually firm handshake with me and then proceeded with unwavering eye contact to wait for me to start asking questions.

Teal was born in 1984 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. In the first years of her life, it became immediately apparent that Teal had been born with unusual talents that set her apart from other children. These talents were not ones that Teal’s parents understood. But in the years to come, they would discover that Teal was demonstrating abilities such as clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, the ability to manipulate electromagnetic fields and the ability to communicate with thought forms. As she grew, unlike many children born with extrasensory talents, her gifts did not go away.

When Teal was still a toddler, her parents (who were both wilderness forest rangers), accepted a job in the Wasatch-Cache National Forest of Utah, not knowing at the time about the intensely religious climate of the location. It was a sparsely populated area that at the time was over 95% Mormon. Because of this, word of her unusual abilities got out very quickly and were not only frowned upon but also feared by many in the community. Like many children growing up as a religious minority Teal was ostracized as a child and the extent of difficulty in her life might have stopped at that, except that it was because of Teal’s misunderstood, extrasensory talents that she caught the undivided attention of a loose acquaintance of the family. This man, whom for anonymity sake Teal calls “Mr. X” was a sociopath who also had dissociative identity disorder. Mr. X had many personalities, one of which belonged to a local Christian cult and one of which attended satanic rituals.

Mr. X managed to infiltrate Teal’s family and position himself between Teal and her parents as her mentor. He managed to convince Teal that among other things, he was in fact her real father. He became her mentor to such a degree that her family trusted him with her on weekend trips, with after school activities and to mentor her in horsemanship. He was who they turned to about what to do about her abilities, and later… in her teen years, they trusted him to take her in when she got so mentally unstable (due to the abuse) that the family didn’t know what to do with her anymore. All the time they were unaware that he was creating the very condition he claimed to be helping. He was taking her out of her bed at night until he eventually trained her to come of her own accord and also managed on many occasions to take her out of school. It was because of this man that Teal was inducted as a child (unbeknownst to her parents) into these local cults by Mr. X. For thirteen years, Teal was routinely ritualistically tortured and programmed by this man and the members of the cults he belonged to.

Over the course of those thirteen years, she was tortured physically and sexually in religious rituals, forced to participate in sacrifices, repeatedly raped and starved. She was forced to undergo 3 abortions (all fathered by Mr. X himself who was in his sixties at the time) he performed them himself because his job allowed not only the meager instruments to do so, but also the know how. She was photographed for sadomasochistic pornography, sold for money to men for sex out of motels and outdoor gas station bathrooms, kept hogtied in basements and kept in a hole in the ground in Mr. X’s back yard. She was exposed repeatedly to electro-shock programming, forced to undergo isolation torture and left overnight tied up in lava caves in southern Idaho. Teal was also forced to participate in bestiality and necrophilia and was drugged by Mr. X with Ketamine, Dormator, Xylazine, opiates and speed (all of which he had unlimited access to due to his career). She was repeatedly chased through wilderness by Mr. X “playing” tracking games in which he would hunt her and put her through any of a list of horrific punishments if she was caught and she was also used as a lure to other children that ended up also being hurt.

Teal was able to escape from Mr. X as well as the cults he belonged to when she was 19 years old. But the real heart of this story is found in the fact that Teal has become healthy and found joy to such an extent that she has completely forgiven her abusers.

Since her escape, she has assumed the title of “The Spiritual Catalyst” and has embarked on a mission as a contemporary spiritual guide in order to remind people of the united, energetic nature of this universe and to teach people how to find bliss in the midst of even the most extreme circumstances.

During my interview with Teal, we spoke briefly about the fact that happiness seems to be a very elusive quality and that those who do achieve it are seen as either unintelligent or conversely enlightened. I asked her if she feels like she has reached a place where she has achieved unshakable happiness and therefore a state of enlightenment. She gave a slight smile to this and bowed her head and said “No. One thing that makes it so people can not find happiness is that they think it is some permanent state you have to achieve or some place you have to get to when the truth is that happiness, like enlightenment either is or isn’t in the moment. It is a constant process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions into happiness, just like it is a process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions to be in line with enlightenment. I have my days where I am not very good at this, and my days that I am.” In her lengthy way of speaking she continued to say “No one is meant to come here to this life and stand in perfection, or live up to something that stands in judgment of us. We are meant to come here to life in order to find happiness. Evolution is an inevitable byproduct of following the path to happiness. Not one person here, as much as you may expect it from them, stands in perfection. Perfection is an illusion. To expect perfection from yourself or others is to be resistant to where you or where someone else is and as long as you are resisting what is, you can not move forward from what is.

For most people, the first reaction that comes upon hearing this story is one of total shock and then the sudden need for justice. The question of how we can reduce the ever increasing levels of crime and violence is one that plagues our society today. The usual answer to this question which is given by politicians and the media is that we have to be even tougher on crime. It is an answer that comes from a deeply held belief that fighting against crime even harder will eventually straighten this country out. But Teal adamantly disagrees. She has maintained the stance that no one needs be brought to justice after what was done to her.

Teal’s abuse did become a matter of the state however. Due to a confidentiality clause which was nullified by certain details of Teal’s abuse, her psychologist at the time presented her the option that she willingly tell the authorities what went on or she would have to contact them with or without Teal’s consent with the details of the abuse. So, in 2005 she told the local authorities the horrendous story of her past. It turned into an investigation, which went cold after quite some time when the district attorney decided the state could not provide enough substantial physical evidence to win a case. When I asked Teal about her views on this she said “Most women who escape from situations like I did do not ever tell about it. I did tell, but even the physical evidence I had was not enough given the years that had passed since the last incident that occurred. And I am glad for that in retrospect.” I, like most people would be, was shocked by this reply and asked her why she was glad that a man such as Mr. X could still be out in the public and not in jail. She proceeded slowly and said “There is a negative vehicle of want and there is a positive vehicle of want. It is our choice which vehicle to get in and drive our own lives from. You could say…I don’t want torture and abusers in this world… so we must punish all of those that torture, and torture the torturer so to speak. Contrastingly, instead of saying…I don’t want torture…one could say…I want compassion… and show those same actors of violence compassion that they perhaps have never been given before. Happy people who feel loved do not hurt other people.”

It is Teal’s belief that the de-humanizing environment of jails and prisons does not rehabilitate criminals, it create even worse criminals. She says it is impossible to punish someone into wellness, that punishment for crime is like fighting fire with fire, and so it is time for the justice system and the environment of jails to change. She believes that the way to eliminate abuse and criminal behavior is to change society at its root and change the way we treat those who commit acts of violence. Teal went on to say “We, as a society believe very strongly in victim-hood and so, we try to control others by creating laws. And we enforce those laws with harsh punishment for all those who disobey them. Laws are not control; they are merely the physical illusion of control. They do not work in the way that they are intended to work, and they run counter to the universal truth of freedom. They will fail and they do fail. Your crime rates will keep going up if crime is approached in the way it is approached today”.

As our meeting came to an end, I found myself awestruck at this woman who stands today in a light of forgiveness and mercy after having lived a life of torture and pain. She demonstrates an attitude which many who have fallen victim to abuse have been incapable of achieving. She comes from a past that gives her the credibility to be able to say that a person can achieve happiness, health and success no matter what they have done in their life and no matter what was done to them. This revolutionary space is where we find Teal Scott. And if you take her message to heart, this revolutionary space is where any of us can find ourselves.

An Amazing Story of Forgiveness

Lost in the road F570, Iceland mode... =O)

It has been determined over the years that the key to freedom is letting go and there is no better way to let go than to forgive. There is no better example of this axiom than is present in the story of Teal Scott. Teal Scott is, a woman who wasn’t supposed to be. Yet she is here to show others the way. She is here to show others the way out of powerlessness and the way out of pain. She made that journey herself, it was a journey where revenge and anger were road signs but not answers. Now, after years of torture inflicted upon her by a mad man and the cults he belonged to, she has no desire to see her abusers prosecuted or to have the iron hammer of justice brought down upon their heads. To her, they are just victims of loveless situations, broken families, and a cycle of separation that exists far beyond the bounds of this story you are reading now. That day, when I saw her for the first time as she rounded the corner, I was instantly struck by the fact that this woman was beautiful enough to be a super model. She moved gracefully with a looming, ethereal heir of confidence across the room. She exchanged a smile and an unusually firm handshake with me and then proceeded with unwavering eye contact to wait for me to start asking questions.

Teal was born in 1984 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. In the first years of her life, it became immediately apparent that Teal had been born with unusual talents that set her apart from other children. These talents were not ones that Teal’s parents understood. But in the years to come, they would discover that Teal was demonstrating abilities such as clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, the ability to manipulate electromagnetic fields and the ability to communicate with thought forms. As she grew, unlike many children born with extrasensory talents, her gifts did not go away.

When Teal was still a toddler, her parents (who were both wilderness forest rangers), accepted a job in the Wasatch-Cache National Forest of Utah, not knowing at the time about the intensely religious climate of the location. It was a sparsely populated area that at the time was over 95% Mormon. Because of this, word of her unusual abilities got out very quickly and were not only frowned upon but also feared by many in the community. Like many children growing up as a religious minority Teal was ostracized as a child and the extent of difficulty in her life might have stopped at that, except that it was because of Teal’s misunderstood, extrasensory talents that she caught the undivided attention of a loose acquaintance of the family. This man, whom for anonymity sake Teal calls “Mr. X” was a sociopath who also had dissociative identity disorder. Mr. X had many personalities, one of which belonged to a local Christian cult and one of which attended satanic rituals.

Mr. X managed to infiltrate Teal’s family and position himself between Teal and her parents as her mentor. He managed to convince Teal that among other things, he was in fact her real father. He became her mentor to such a degree that her family trusted him with her on weekend trips, with after school activities and to mentor her in horsemanship. He was who they turned to about what to do about her abilities, and later… in her teen years, they trusted him to take her in when she got so mentally unstable (due to the abuse) that the family didn’t know what to do with her anymore. All the time they were unaware that he was creating the very condition he claimed to be helping. He was taking her out of her bed at night until he eventually trained her to come of her own accord and also managed on many occasions to take her out of school. It was because of this man that Teal was inducted as a child (unbeknownst to her parents) into these local cults by Mr. X. For thirteen years, Teal was routinely ritualistically tortured and programmed by this man and the members of the cults he belonged to.

Over the course of those thirteen years, she was tortured physically and sexually in religious rituals, forced to participate in sacrifices, repeatedly raped and starved. She was forced to undergo 3 abortions (all fathered by Mr. X himself who was in his sixties at the time) he performed them himself because his job allowed not only the meager instruments to do so, but also the know how. She was photographed for sadomasochistic pornography, sold for money to men for sex out of motels and outdoor gas station bathrooms, kept hogtied in basements and kept in a hole in the ground in Mr. X’s back yard. She was exposed repeatedly to electro-shock programming, forced to undergo isolation torture and left overnight tied up in lava caves in southern Idaho. Teal was also forced to participate in bestiality and necrophilia and was drugged by Mr. X with Ketamine, Dormator, Xylazine, opiates and speed (all of which he had unlimited access to due to his career). She was repeatedly chased through wilderness by Mr. X “playing” tracking games in which he would hunt her and put her through any of a list of horrific punishments if she was caught and she was also used as a lure to other children that ended up also being hurt.

Teal was able to escape from Mr. X as well as the cults he belonged to when she was 19 years old. But the real heart of this story is found in the fact that Teal has become healthy and found joy to such an extent that she has completely forgiven her abusers.

Since her escape, she has assumed the title of “The Spiritual Catalyst” and has embarked on a mission as a contemporary spiritual guide in order to remind people of the united, energetic nature of this universe and to teach people how to find bliss in the midst of even the most extreme circumstances.

During my interview with Teal, we spoke briefly about the fact that happiness seems to be a very elusive quality and that those who do achieve it are seen as either unintelligent or conversely enlightened. I asked her if she feels like she has reached a place where she has achieved unshakable happiness and therefore a state of enlightenment. She gave a slight smile to this and bowed her head and said “No. One thing that makes it so people can not find happiness is that they think it is some permanent state you have to achieve or some place you have to get to when the truth is that happiness, like enlightenment either is or isn’t in the moment. It is a constant process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions into happiness, just like it is a process in each moment to focus your thoughts and subsequent actions to be in line with enlightenment. I have my days where I am not very good at this, and my days that I am.” In her lengthy way of speaking she continued to say “No one is meant to come here to this life and stand in perfection, or live up to something that stands in judgment of us. We are meant to come here to life in order to find happiness. Evolution is an inevitable byproduct of following the path to happiness. Not one person here, as much as you may expect it from them, stands in perfection. Perfection is an illusion. To expect perfection from yourself or others is to be resistant to where you or where someone else is and as long as you are resisting what is, you can not move forward from what is.

For most people, the first reaction that comes upon hearing this story is one of total shock and then the sudden need for justice. The question of how we can reduce the ever increasing levels of crime and violence is one that plagues our society today. The usual answer to this question which is given by politicians and the media is that we have to be even tougher on crime. It is an answer that comes from a deeply held belief that fighting against crime even harder will eventually straighten this country out. But Teal adamantly disagrees. She has maintained the stance that no one needs be brought to justice after what was done to her.

Teal’s abuse did become a matter of the state however. Due to a confidentiality clause which was nullified by certain details of Teal’s abuse, her psychologist at the time presented her the option that she willingly tell the authorities what went on or she would have to contact them with or without Teal’s consent with the details of the abuse. So, in 2005 she told the local authorities the horrendous story of her past. It turned into an investigation, which went cold after quite some time when the district attorney decided the state could not provide enough substantial physical evidence to win a case. When I asked Teal about her views on this she said “Most women who escape from situations like I did do not ever tell about it. I did tell, but even the physical evidence I had was not enough given the years that had passed since the last incident that occurred. And I am glad for that in retrospect.” I, like most people would be, was shocked by this reply and asked her why she was glad that a man such as Mr. X could still be out in the public and not in jail. She proceeded slowly and said “There is a negative vehicle of want and there is a positive vehicle of want. It is our choice which vehicle to get in and drive our own lives from. You could say…I don’t want torture and abusers in this world… so we must punish all of those that torture, and torture the torturer so to speak. Contrastingly, instead of saying…I don’t want torture…one could say…I want compassion… and show those same actors of violence compassion that they perhaps have never been given before. Happy people who feel loved do not hurt other people.”

It is Teal’s belief that the de-humanizing environment of jails and prisons does not rehabilitate criminals, it create even worse criminals. She says it is impossible to punish someone into wellness, that punishment for crime is like fighting fire with fire, and so it is time for the justice system and the environment of jails to change. She believes that the way to eliminate abuse and criminal behavior is to change society at its root and change the way we treat those who commit acts of violence. Teal went on to say “We, as a society believe very strongly in victim-hood and so, we try to control others by creating laws. And we enforce those laws with harsh punishment for all those who disobey them. Laws are not control; they are merely the physical illusion of control. They do not work in the way that they are intended to work, and they run counter to the universal truth of freedom. They will fail and they do fail. Your crime rates will keep going up if crime is approached in the way it is approached today”.

As our meeting came to an end, I found myself awestruck at this woman who stands today in a light of forgiveness and mercy after having lived a life of torture and pain. She demonstrates an attitude which many who have fallen victim to abuse have been incapable of achieving. She comes from a past that gives her the credibility to be able to say that a person can achieve happiness, health and success no matter what they have done in their life and no matter what was done to them. This revolutionary space is where we find Teal Scott. And if you take her message to heart, this revolutionary space is where any of us can find ourselves.

How Writers Can Benefit From the Short Story Market

sunrise off the bow

There are countless writers out there who dream of someday selling a novel manuscript and being able to make a full-time living as a professional writer or novelist. Just imagine being able to quit your day job and spend your time doing what you love, writing and editing your own manuscripts, attending book reading events, and promoting your work. Many professional writers eventually go on to receive a job as a creative writing professor at a local university, teaching students how to perfect their own craft. It’s a great dream, but unfortunately most amateur writers take the wrong approach to trying to get their work published and become a full-time professional writer. Here are a few tips about using the short story market to perfect your writing, get your name out there and eventually sell a novel manuscript.

First, let’s get a few things straight about publishing short stories. It’s definitely not glamorous, and there’s not a whole lot of money in it. Most literary magazines only give a few bucks to writers for the short stories they publish, so it isn’t going to make you rich. And their readership is usually very low, so you aren’t going to become famous by publishing short stories, either. Sure, there are a few exceptions to the rule that have huge readerships and give big payouts if they decide to publish your work, but getting your writing accepted there is extremely tough, even if you are a superb writer.

So, if the short story market pays so poorly and has such a low readership, why do we suggest that you go there first if you eventually want to become a novelist? Well, there are a three reasons. The first is that the short story market helps writers perfect their writing, and the feedback you receive from editors will help you become a better short story writer and novelist. The second is that it helps you get used to how to actually submit work to editors, and the process that is involved with getting published. And the third is that it will help you build up your writing resume. A publishing company is much more likely to read a manuscript from a writer who has been published in several literary magazines, even if they were small publications.

There is also another reason why getting published in small literary magazines is good for the new writer, and that is it helps bolster your own self esteem as a writer. Even if it is a small literary magazine, there’s nothing like the feeling of seeing your work in print for the first time. When an editor makes a conscious decision to choose your writing over the work of someone else, and publishes it in his magazine, it is a great encouragement. You’ll be able to share your published work with friends and colleagues, and it will make you feel much more legitimate as a writer.

So if you want to be the next great novelist, don’t be afraid to explore the short story market before taking a stab at your first novel. It will help you become a better writer, learn about the submission and publication process, and help you build up a solid resume for potential publishers to look at the next time you submit your writing.

Roaming Fingers – A Story of A Childhood Sexual Molestation

Belmont House

We have all had our “stories” to tell about our lives growing up. Some have had fun loving childhoods in which they had a stay-at-home mom, who had home baked cookies ready for them as soon as they walked in from school, clean clothes ready for the next day, and dinner simmering on the stove. Dads arrived home, everyone sat at the table and enjoyed the delicious meal that mom had prepared, and then while dinner dishes were being cleaned up, the kids could tell their dad about their day. Some had parents that encouraged them, helped them with their homework after supper, and enjoyed spending time with their kids before the next day started. You know, one of those “Leave It To Beaver” type of families. Then there were those who were minus one parents for one reason or another…usually divorce or death. Or what about those that lived with alcoholic or drug addicted parents who weren’t really “parents” at all. Their kids were basically were on their own, raising themselves, fending for themselves, and making the most of bad situations.

I don’t know why I am sharing this right now. I just feel led to let someone out there know that you are not alone! That you can live a normal life. I have been molested by 4 different men between the ages of 8 – 14. But, the LORD GOD Himself, brought me through this all. I have been been redeemed and washed clean by the blood of the Lord. I no longer have to live in life of my molestation taking charge over me any longer.

I was one of those kids who had my own “unique” circumstances when growing up. My parents divorced when I was 7, though my dad moved out when I was 5 ½. I was the oldest of the three of us. We moved to a small town to live closer to my grandparents, my mom’s parents. We moved from the bigger metropolis of Denver, CO, to the small town of Julesburg, CO. At first, when I was younger, I’d made my lifelong friend with the girl who lived across the street from my grandparent’s house. This was the summer before our 2nd grade school year. During the time, our lives seemed somewhat “normal” playing babies, or pretending to be teachers at school, or building ant farms…

But during my lifetime, many things happened that made me who I am today. I cannot begin to tell you what my life was like and do it justice! There are so many more stories I could tell you! For one, we moved and lived in 27 different places from the time I turned 7 – 18. I went to 11 schools in 12 years time. I think that that with us moving so often, I took with me idea that “I better make friends quickly, because sure enough we’d be moving and I’d have to leave.” I believe my sister took the theory that “why bother making friends because we were going to move anyway.” And my brother, well, being a boy, keeping a friend wasn’t that big of a deal, and he made friends fairly easy, but it wasn’t as big an issue for him as it was us girls.

When I was 8, my mom began dating a Japanese farmer in our area, quickly becoming engaged, with the last name of Kinoshita. As you can imagine, the 3 of us kids made quite fun of that name at the time by intentionally pronouncing it, Kin-O-Shit-A. Mean, weren’t we? Well this is the first time that I consider myself being sexually molested. After suppers, my mom would go to the kitchen to wash dishes at his house, and the 3 of us kids and her boyfriend would lie on the floor to watch some TV. Well her fiance’ would use this time to “rub my tummy.” Now I was 8, so needing my tubby rubbed after dinner seemed really weird to me, but I thought, okay, I suppose if this is normal? It made me uncomfortable, but my mom said he was only trying to be nice. Okay, so nice it was…I guess?? But then those tummy rubs, turned into “roaming fingers,” and climbed a little higher and a little higher. Soon my tummy rubs became chest rubs. Now mind you, I had barely started developing, but still had just enough that this made me incredibly uncomfortable! My mom had said that she really wanted this marriage because he was financially well off, and so each night that this went on, I tried to keep myself busy with homework so we didn’t have to lie on the floor and watch TV, but one way or another, he coaxed me in to it, and my mom had told us several times that she didn’t want this relationship messed up by us kids. So, I kept my mouth shut, until one day, on the way home from school, I let it all out to my friend. She went home and talked to her mom. I didn’t know what they were talking about, because her parents only spoke Spanish, so I didn’t think much of it. However, her mom, having heard what was going on, assured me that they were there for me, and that this was something that I had to talk to my mom about right away. So with my friend and her mom both sitting there, I called my mom and told her what had been happening. I don’t know much how was actually said between my mom to her new fiance’, but I do know that she broke up with him. However, my friend’s mom suggested that he be turned in to the police, but my mom said that it was pointless to call the police because “he was so rich that he can own the town, so no one will believe you anyway. It would be his word against yours,” she said. So, life went on as “normal.” Okay, normal as normal could be.

Then my mom found a younger guy who could come over in the mornings and stay with us, when she went to work at 6:00 AM at the truck stop, and he got off at 6:00 AM from working the all night shift there, and would come stay with the three of us kids for the day, as our “babysitter.” Oh he was fun, would make us breakfast, take us to the school or the park to play on the playground, and chase us around the house playing tickle monster. However, when he first got to the house each morning, instead of climbing in to my mom’s empty bed to sleep for a while, he would climb in to my bed with me. Why? Well there were those “roaming fingers” again. Except this time, these fingers roamed up, and then down. I was 9, and he was 21. What did I have at that age that was so enticing anyway?! I hadn’t even started physically developing yet for goodness sake!!! At any rate, this went on for weeks. I told my mom, but she she thought that since I had been through this with her ex-fiance’, then “it must me something I was doing to encourage these guys.” So, though he stopped watching us, I remember wishing him dead. I did. I couldn’t help myself. I just wanted him dead so he could never do something like this again! A couple of months later, while he was working at the electric company, and his partner decided to start drinking some beer on their lunch break. Well Curtis had climbed the pole to work on a specific wire that was causing them trouble, and was electrocuted. He fell from the pole, and his partner, having been drinking, wasn’t functional enough to give him mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. I knew it was all my doing! I had prayed and asked for him to die, and he had. You see, it was all my fault…I had wished it, and prayed for that. I just knew it was my fault. I held on to that guilt for many, many years after that. Someone was dead and it was all my fault.

Then, we had a family friend, who we’d been friends with he and his wife for years. In fact, most times, we loved going over to their house. She was like an adopted mom to us kids, and we could convince her husband to come play games with us, read us stories, etc. You should have heard him read one of the Dr. Seuss books backwards! It was a riot! And it was a tongue twister reading it from front to back, let alone reading it back to front! And we used to love tricking him in to asking for Big Macs at Burger King! So, needless to say, we would go over to their house quite often. Usually though, I got the big bed with his wife because we always went to bed much earlier than he did, and he slept on the couch when we stayed, or in the spare bedroom. His wife would usually send me in to wake him when it was time for us all to get up each morning. That’s when those infamous “roaming fingers” would start roaming again. I was between the ages of 10 – 12 during most of this time. But, without telling my mom, (remember how she had decided the last time that I must be the one to enticing these “men,”) that sure enough, it must be something about me, and once again, I was at fault.

Well over time, we’d moved again like we had done numerous other times before, and so we didn’t see them as often as we had before. It was in the beginning of our 8th grade year, so I was in one school there in Jr. High, and suddenly we left CO and headed to good ole’ IA. My mom had broken up with a trucker guy she was dating, a real nutty guy who used to set up candles in a circle in our basement, and call on the spirits from the Mojave Dessert. So, we packed up as soon as we got home from school that day, took only our few very important possessions (and I do mean very few), and our cats, and loaded up a small little U-haul trailer, and off we headed out with no where specific in mind. My mom suggested IA, so off we headed West. We ended up in Council Bluffs and out of money. So, this is where we decided to stay.

Of course, we’d switched schools again, for the umpteenth time, and we started yet another school in Council Bluffs, while we lived in a one room cabin with 2 double beds, one bathroom, a crock pot to cook in and three cats. We started one school, but were the “poor kids” and didn’t fit in well. But, once again, we moved. This time it was a good thing. I was starting in the 9th grade, but at a completely different school. This school was much better, much more acceptable, much less judgmental, and critical, and we weren’t treated as “low class scum” here.

I was finally 14 at this time. My last year before I got to start high school. I was so excited! I was finally growing up, started wearing makeup, fixing my hair, and thinking about the big “B” word…BOYS!!! We were living in a house fairly near the school, so it was in walking distance. My mom was once again working at one of the truck stops nearby. But money was tight, so my mom brought a truck driver home to live with us to help pay the bills. Well this guy was 28. My mom worked the all night shift at the truck stop, and Terry would be home most nights, and on runs during the days for the most part. Well Terry took quite a liking to me immediately. Now mind you, I had just turned 14. My sister and I shared a bedroom, my brother had one to the left of us, and across the hall was Sue’s room (a girl/lady in her early 20s from Indiana), someone that Terry had found hitch hiking one day on his trip out-of-town, and brought to our house to stay with us too. So, that was one more person to help pay the bills. But, to get to the bathroom, we had to walk through a little hallway, and we had to go through Sue’s room to get there. Then to the left was the bathroom, and then to the right was Terry’s bedroom. My mom’s room was on the main floor. In between the bathroom and Terry’s bedroom was a second door. The door locked from Terry’s side of the room, but not from his room into the bathroom. Well at night, once Terry thought all of us kids were asleep in bed, he would come into my room, and once again, night after night, those infamous “roaming fingers” of yet another guy, would start their traveling. He would come in, with a condom on, already ready for whatever I guess he had hopes for. He would ask me to put on something “sexy.” I didn’t have anything “sexy” because I was 14-years-old, and “sexy” was not something I was thinking about at that point in my life. Heck, just getting my makeup to look good in the morning, and curling my hair before school was as “sexy” as it got. His fingers roamed places that I didn’t know existed. I used to pray, “Please Lord, let him think that I’m really asleep and go away tonight.” Or I’d pray, “Please Lord, let my sister wake up so that she’ll make enough noise or something that he’d go away and leave me alone.” He never got to the stage where we actually forced full fledged sex on me, but night after night, we went through this ritual. Night after night he would go back to his room, and I would disgustedly cry myself to sleep. Night after night I wished my sister would please just WAKE UP, just this once. But, she never seemed to, or so I thought, until many years later when I found out that she said that she was afraid to let us know that she was awake, because she was afraid he would come to her next. I can’t blame her for that. I wished I could pretend so he’d leave me alone too, but, that wasn’t the case.

Well one day Sue had asked me to go for a walk with her to talk. So, I did. She started telling me that Terry would come in to her room almost every night and do these “things” to her, ask her to “put on something “sexy,” and his “roaming fingers” would start roaming with her too. That’s when it all came out…I spilled what he had been doing to me as well. I pleaded and pleaded with her not to tell my mom because my mom would say, yet once again, that “it must be something I was doing to entice guys like this.” My fault again. Well Sue, knowing how young I was, ended up telling my mom after all. So, my mom went and confronted Terry. He told her that he did it to me because “He loved me soooooo much that he couldn’t resist wanting to make love to me.” Well my mom told him to pack up and get out of our house. We went to my mom’s friend’s house for a few days while he moved out and because they were one vacation and needed someone to house sit and care for their pets. So, we stayed there 3 nights and 4 days. Once we got back home, Terry was gone, and life seemed to go back to “normal” again. Sue and I felt such great peace having him gone. Then one day, about a week later, my mom said that she had to go to the truck stop because Terry wanted to talk to her about something. So, she left and was gone for several hours. When she came back, she said that Terry had convinced her that he really did do what he had done “because he loved me,” and she said that it was a small price to pay since he offered to help pay even more of the bills we had. So, she let him move back in to our house with us. For the first week or two, he was very polite, pulled out the chairs for me when we would sit down at the table, and insisted on driving me to school so that he could kiss me good-bye each day to “let people know that I was his.” At this point, I tried to convince myself that okay, maybe he did really love me, and that I should be proud and flattered that someone the age of 28 would like me, a 14-year-old teenage girl.

Well a few more weeks went by and things had gone back to the way they were. My mom would go to work all night, and Terry would once again come back in to my room at nights, with condom in hand, and his roaming fingers would once again, starting roaming up and down, up and down. The words he spoke made me sick. And every night, it was was same, I would sickeningly cry myself to sleep because I could no longer deal with this at my age, and I was supposed to be having fun in school, looking forward to my high school years, dances, proms, sports events, etc. But instead, I wouldn’t see a future at all. One day, I had had enough, and could no longer take it! I know my mom wanted and needed the money, but I couldn’t pretend that I was okay anymore. I wasn’t. I wanted to die. Yes, truly die! If it had not been for the Lord putting in my path a certain girl at school, who I quickly became best friends with, and my Science Teacher, whom I will never forget and always be grateful for, I might have ended it there. But, God obviously had other plans for me. Just when I thought that He had left me all alone, He provided me with a friend, and a man who not only was my teacher, but one who genuinely cared about me, who knew that I was going through something terrible at home, who gave me compassion, extra time when I just couldn’t concentrate on my assignments, and someone who could make me laugh. I needed that. It brought back hope to me that ALL men did not just want me for sex. That older men were not all perverts, and that God had put him in my life, as my teacher, just in the nick of time.

Today, by God’s grace, forgiveness, and compassion, I have been forgiven my the blood of the lamb, the Lord Jesus Himself. The person who died on that cross many, many years ago so that I might have life everlasting. The one who pulled me out of the darkness and back in to the light. The one who took away all my hurts and distrusts in men. I thank God that though I had to suffer through those awful times, that I came to learn that it was not my fault that the one guy had been electrocuted and died. That NONE of the things that these four men did to me as a child, were my fault.

To this day, my mother still says, “IF those thing really happened to Kelly, then I guess I should have protected her more.” IF those things happened? IF?!?! There is no question that they happened me! My sister once told her that she knows it to be fact because most times she was in the same bed with me, as we almost always shared a bedroom while growing up. I no longer expect that my mother will ever take any responsibility for what I went through. I know that now. I know that I have to forgive her so that Christ can forgive me for my sins. But it is truly, and only by the Grace of God Himself, that I am still here today. It is my prayer that maybe, just maybe, this testimony will help someone else who has been through something similar, or worse, that there IS hope in Jesus Christ. You are not alone. It is NOT your fault. Give it to HIM, as His shoulders are strong enough to take it from you and let you now walk freely in His love.

*Names of people have been changed to protect those others who were involved.

The Taylor Swift Guide to Writing Brilliant Blog Posts

La Bodeguita del Medio (Marzo 2011,La Habana,Cuba)

Ever wished you could write the kind of posts that people want to read and talk about?

As it happens, you are not alone. Many beginning bloggers face the same problems. They take to the advice that if you want to be good at something, you have to do it everyday. So they make it a point of duty to write everyday.

Even when they are busy and have a lot of issues, they still squeeze out time to write at least 100 words. 100 words still counts for something, right? At least they are writing something.

The whole point of doing this is so that writing will become second nature to them. They will find it a lot easier and it will make them become more confident with using words.

And it does.

But that is not the problem, is it? No it is not. The problem is when they sit down to write a blog post the end product does not come out the way they want it to. They feel it within them that that they have written is not good enough.

So to solve the problem I decided to write this article showing you the secrets to writing brilliant blog posts. To be able to do this though I would like to introduce you to a popular country music artist with an attractive voice.

Taylor Swift

You and I both know who Taylor Swift is.

She is smart, beautiful and she sings well. What you may not know is how she became the rockstar we all rave about today.

Taylor did not become popular by contesting for the American Idol or any music talent hunt show for that matter on TV. No she did it by performing at the famous Bluebird Cafe 'in Nashville, USA.

Unknown to her Scott Borchetta (a music genius now formerly with Dreamworks Records) was at the cafe that day. He was just about to launch his brand new label and he was so thrilled with Taylor's performance that he had no choice but to sign her up.

He could not allow such a bright talent to remain under a shade. The world had to see what she was made of.

The same can be said about most beginning bloggers. They leave the reader with no choice but to click away from their blogs because their writing is so full of fluff, it makes the reader's head spin. Seriously. You read some people's work and you think: "Each sentence in this paragraph makes exactly the same point, said in a slightly different way.

But it does not have to be that way. Taylor Swift was able to become a rockstar and so can you. You do not even need Scott Borchetta to be at a cafe 'before you can do it.

How to Write Brilliant Blog Posts

So how do you do it? How do you write brilliant posts that people want to read and talk about?

Well let's take a look at a few quotes from you know who.

1. Let Your First Draft Suck

No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind.
~ Taylor Swift

Okay, pay attention to this:

I got this tip from Deborah Blum the author of the book called The Poisoner's Handbook and Ghost Hunters. When asked about how writers can make their writing more awesome, she advised we should let the first draft suck.

No she does not mean we should make our writing bad on purpose when writing the first draft. What she means is we should put our editor side away and just write as it comes to us without stopping or checking to see if what we have written sounds right.

To her the first draft is just an attempt to start unfolding the logic and flow of the story. She advises that if you ever get stuck you should just put xxx in the draft (for figure this out later).

And you know what? She is right.

Most beginning bloggers think that their first draft is their final draft. They work hard to write it well and once they are done with it, they are done with it.

Big mistake.

Because you see, when it comes to writing something brilliant your first draft can never be your final draft. You have to write the second draft and then write until you are sure to the depths of your soul that what you have written will win a preliminary competition.

So the next time you sit down to write a post, let your first draft suck. Yes I know it is going to take some getting used to but no matter what happens do not stop.

Do not stop to check if what you have written sounds right. Just let your creative juices flow. When you are done you can make corrections.

Because here's the thing: your writing is the legacy you leave behind for the world. Are you going to make it wonderful or a badly bad one?

2. Give The Reader A Reasonable Explanation

The lesson I've learned the most often in life is that you're always going to know more in the future than you know now.
~ Taylor Swift

Imagine this scenario:

You have a daughter who is like 16 years old. You guys have not gotten into a fight for quite a while. One day though, she walks up to you and says: "Mom (or dad as the case may be), I hate you. I wish you were never my parent." And then she runs away.

What would you think? Would not you keep asking yourself: "But why? Have I Done wrong?"

I know I might be taking this too far, but that is exactly how your readers feel when you say something in your writing and you do not tell them why you have said it. They get confused, frustrated and they keep asking themselves: "But why?"

You see, the thing is people will believe you more or do what you want them to do faster when they know the reason behind their actions. You can not just tell someone to visit your website or agree with your point of view just because you have said it.

You have to make a case for yourself. You have to explain to them the reason they should do what you want them to do or see things from your perspective.

Because the truth is when it comes to putting words on to a page, people do not like it when they are left hanging in a gallow of obscurity. I know I do not.

They want to understand it now, not later and certainly not in the future.

So always tell your readers the why in your writing. Use the word "because" to help them make sense of your piece. Do not ever let someone read your work and then think: "What is all this really about?"

3. Shoot For Greatness, Not Commerce

I have an excellent father, his strength is making me stronger.
~ Taylor Swift

Can you say the same about your writing?

If there is one thing I hate about most beginning bloggers it is that they put up blog posts in a hurry with the sole aim of making quick bucks from products and services they represent. (I am talking about most especially affiliate offers). They do not give a damn about the people reading it and they do not want to give a damn. All they are after is money and that is it. Nothing else.

Well that is simply bad business practice.

Because you see, your writing is much more than just a tool for commerce. It is much more than just a way for you to sell your products and services and make money.

According to Jon Morrow (my writing mentor) your writing is a medium through which you accomplish change.

Every blog post you write should be aimed at one thing and one thing only: change your reader's life. If any of your posts does not do that then you do not publish.

Because the thing is your real strength as a blogger comes from the number of lives you are able to change. It comes from the number of lives you are able to affect positively. It comes from the number of lives you are able to make happy.

It sure does not come from the number of products and services you are able to sell. Or ow much money you are able to make.

So stop publishing posts you write in 20 minutes. If you need 20 hours to come up with something really worth reading, go for it. Do not mind that you are using up so much time because you deserve it. You deserve to write something and then people email you telling you how their thinking has changed because of you.

That is the effect of excellent writing. And that is the kind we all want to read.

Now go shoot for greatness.

Dan Brown's Angels and Demons – A True Masterpiece

Blu Cruise Fish

Like most people, I did not read Angels and Demons until after I read The DaVinci Code. Blown away by The DaVinci Code, I gave Angels and Demons a try. Dan Brown, yet again, weaved a complicated web of plot, character, murder and suspense, keeping the ending unknown until the very last page.

Angels and Demons starts out with the beloved scholar / symbologist Robert Langdon, who is awoken by a phone call early in the morning. After a disturbing fax that reveals a mutilated human body, Robert sets off on a high intensity journey in hopes of stopping a murderous cult.

I would highly recommend any of Dan Brown's books, but especially Angels and Demons. A word of warning: if you are not 100% set in your faith, do not read this book. Just like The DaVinci Code, Angels and Demons cause controversies with its inclusion of the Catholic Church and religious myths. It was this controversy that initially caused me to buy his books. I am someone who is deeply sure of my faith, and because of this assurance, I did not second guess my beliefs for a work of fiction.

Part of this controversy is from people who are worried that these books will have other people deny their faith because they have another point of view containing unanswered questions. In my personal opinion, if reading any work of fiction is going to cause you to question your beliefs and faith, you really did not have faith to begin with.

Setting Boundaries in Relationships

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Setting personal boundaries are like identifying the gates in our invisible fence lines which protects the precious heart and soul inside our bodies. Many people look at boundaries as walls, but rather when we establish healthy boundaries it provides a way to distinguish what we choose to let in and let out. They form flexible gates, not stationary walls It is important to learn about setting healthy boundaries so we can make decisions about what is and what isn’t permissible in all relationships.

Boundaries are valuable

All relationships work more harmoniously when the participants know what to expect and what is expected of them. Being kind, but firm when stating what you need from a relationship allows the other person to reciprocate. How other people act and think often has nothing to do with you, but rather with their own perceptions. You can only take care of yourself.

It doesn’t matter how elaborate the fencing and eloquent our statements are, if we don’t honor ourselves enough to draw the line and stick to it consistently. It is just as valuable to the other person that they learn how to be with you and what the guidelines are for the relationship.

Body Language and tone of voice

Verbal communication is the language of information and only 20 % is absorbed. Body language and tone of voice is the language of relationships and 80% is remembered. Make sure you appear confident and you speak with a neutral, calm and non-accusing tone when establishing your boundaries. Use “I” statements which reflect on how things affect you, rather than “you” statements which put people on the defensive.

4 Step model for setting boundaries

1. Calmly inform the other person by stating, “I feel uncomfortable and want to shut down when you yell at me.”

2. Request that they honor your boundary. “I ask that you talk to me without yelling.” Or ..For me to listen and hear what you are saying to me, I need to you speak to me in a calm voice without yelling.

3. Insist that they honor your boundary, again with a firm but kind voice, “I insist that when we are talking we talk in calm voices.”

4. Leave the situation. Now is not the time or place to continue communicating with someone who refuses to respect your boundaries. Leave the door open to talk later in a more respectful manner. Continue to maintain a calm but firm voice and say, “I will not continue this conversation in this way. I welcome an opportunity to talk with you without yelling or screaming at another time. Let me know if you decide to visit without raised voices.”

Don’t take it personally

You can not assume responsibility for other people’s feelings, agendas or methods of communication. You can only state how you desire to be treated in life. If there are old patterns, it may take some time to convince others that you are serious about sticking to your boundaries. Everyone has the right to be treated with respect and courtesy.

People you know may be surprised at first when you tell them they have crossed the line, but will respect you more in the end. Hopefully, they will model this communication style and it will make for more honest and open relationships for all.

© Judy H. Wright, Parent educator and Author

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